I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer insist upon my choice. I am willing to trust. I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me! I let … [Read more...]
Rewind to the Good Times!, Larry James
July 7, 2014 by
Rewind to the Good Times! Happily ever after is complicated. Happy weddings are a dime a dozen, however, happy marriages are much more rare and therefore more precious than gold. It's important to think to the future, say, 50 years down the road and wonder if the person you have chosen - with things sagging and the wrinkles more predominant, etc., etc., - is this someone you will still be excited to be with and love? Or will you say to yourself, "What the hell was I thinking?" I … [Read more...]
A Red Rose Bud For Her Pillow…
July 4, 2014 by
A Red Rose Bud For Her Pillow… Some men just don't get it! They say they love their partner, but rarely surprise her with something romantic. Taking the time to stop by a card or flower shop to do more than tell her how much you care without words is a great idea. A flower is a beautiful way to convey unspoken meaning. Women love surprises. Especially the ones that show that you were thinking about her and that you had to go a little out of your way to make it happen. So... guys! … [Read more...]
OPRAH says: Your Partner is Secretly Unhappy, 6 Signs
June 23, 2014 by
6 Signs Your Partner Is Secretly Unhappy There've been no late-night texts from mysterious numbers, no blow-out fights, but you still can't shake the feeling something's off. Find out what some of those weird things might actually mean. ~ By Amy Shearn 1. He's Obsessively Acquiring Electronics As the novelist and essayist Charles Baxter put it in his book Burning Down the House, "People in a traumatized state tend to love their furniture." It's almost as if we're gathering things to … [Read more...]
Do You and Your Partner Go to Bed at the Same Time?
June 21, 2014 by
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? The one thing distinguishing a good marriage is that couples go to sleep with each other and wake up with each other. When partners don't go to bed at the same time, they miss a critical time for connecting. This pattern is the equivalent of a huge lost opportunity for sustaining and nurturing your partnership. The bedroom should be used for sleeping, sexual intimacy, or even pillow … [Read more...]
Are You Settling For Less Than You Deserve?
June 17, 2014 by
Virginia Clark, Guest Author There's a big difference between being accommodating and ignoring your needs. Being single can be frustrating. It can make us feel lonely and sad as we watch our friends pair up and settle down. It might make us feel hopeless and wonder if it will ever be our turn. But that's no reason to settle for a relationship that isn't giving what you want or what you deserve. Settling for less is an epidemic with women. We will settle for less than we deserve in our … [Read more...]
5 False Beliefs That Stop You From Finding Real Love
June 13, 2014 by
My husband, Kiran, and I were each married before for about six years when we were younger. Both of us then spent several years in unfulfilling, on again/off again relationships. The good news is the suffering we endured, combined with therapy and a lot of work on ourselves, got us to an incredible place. When we finally came together in our late 30s, we had a strongly defined sense of who we were, what we wanted in a partner, and how to forge a supportive, loving and happy marriage. Here … [Read more...]
‘Say Something ….’
May 8, 2014 by
As a relationship coach I often have clients who are having what most people consider the number one problem in relationships: Communication Issues. Or maybe I should say, poor communication skills. "Communication troubles can stem from childhood experiences, in which we may learn to “stuff” our feelings, blame others, blow-up in anger, “beat around the bush” instead of saying what we need, want, or feel, or otherwise experience--and imitate - counterproductive communication habits. Sometimes, … [Read more...]
“How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways…,”
April 18, 2014 by
Elizabeth Barrett Browning's begins... How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. How long has it been since you wrote your sweetheart a beautiful sonnet or simply told her/him, "I love you." Marriage and relationship experts agree on the importance of communicating love to our partners often and in a variety of forms. We often forget to show the ones we love how important they are to us. Simply saying, "I love you," is one way, but there are many other ways. Be creative. Do it with … [Read more...]
