We often cannot see that we have choice to be angry or not. No matter what happens we always have choice. The hurt we experience sometimes keeps us at a distance from responsible choices. We can move through the pain of a changing relationship much more rapidly when we remember that we are never without choice. It's okay to feel angry. It is also important to remember that no one can "make" you angry. That is only and always a choice. The psychological importance of working through … [Read more...]
Angry is a Habit ~ CelebrateLove.com
Let Go of People Who You No Longer Need, or Want
How to Let Go of People Who You No Longer Need, or Want One of the hardest things in life is to let go of the people we love the most. We hold on to those close to us so tightly, fearing that without them we will be nothing. Fearing that without them the love we feel in our hearts will be forever lost. “Some birds are not meant to be caged, that’s all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they … [Read more...]
Anger is a Habit
It's easy to imagine habits like a scotch after dinner, biting your nails or saying, "you know" after every sentence. An event or a time of day triggers us, and we go with the habit. It's easier than exploring new territory - it's merely a thoughtless response to an incoming trigger. But emotions can become habits as well. Distrustful is a habit. Lonely is a habit. Generous is a habit. When that stranger doesn't do what you expect, is your response to assume that … [Read more...]
How to Let Go: The 4 People You Must Forgive
There are four people you need to forgive if you are serious about changing your life and learning how to live in the now. 1] The first are your parents, living or dead. You must absolutely forgive them for every mistake they ever made in bringing you up. At the very least, you should be grateful to them for giving you life. They got you here. If you are happy to be alive, you can forgive them for everything else. Never complain about them again. Many of my seminar participants have phoned … [Read more...]
“See Them” – A New Message From VERONICA
See Them "In physical life it is very easy to become lost in one's own thoughts and perceptions. Most of you have an awareness of how important connection to others may be. Some allow the distance they feel to become how the define themselves. Your culture calls them by many names. Most of them are not very flattering. We suggest expanding your vision to include those who may be withdrawing from connection. Often it begins in childhood by not being capable of interacting with others due … [Read more...]
Your Child: Bully or Victim?
Your Child: Bully or Victim? There has been a great deal of discussion in the professional and the lay literature regarding bullying. In this book, Your Child: Bully or Victim? Understanding and Ending School Yard Tyrany, Sheras and Tippins provide a thorough analysis of the problem and specific interventions. They employ excellent vignettes to illustrate their point and support their advice with research. It provides much more than most books on bullying and victimization. And … [Read more...]
ADELE BUTLER – Women of Spirit: Elder Abuse
ADELE BUTLER - Women of Spirit: Elder Abuse Elder Abuse Victims Act of 2009 (House Resolution 448) “Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God. I am the Lord.” (Leviticus 19:32, NI) Last month we celebrated my mother’s 80th birthday. I was thrilled that my fiancé and her only grandchild were there for the momentous occasion. As I looked at her I couldn’t help but feel happy that she is still around. She and I used to live together until I … [Read more...]
ADELE BUTLER – Women of Spirit: “Please, Mommy, don’t…”
Suspect Abuse of a Child ~ Take Action! Last week Saturday, my two year and I were in the car while his Daddy was in the supermarket. I was sitting at the back of the car with him while he played. Things were going well for a while until he started to get into mischief. I warned him that if he continued to misbehave I would put him back into his car-seat. He didn’t listen. He thought that I was joking so when he misbehaved again, I lifted him and put him back into the car-seat. He … [Read more...]
ADELE BUTLER – Women of Spirit: 'Bullying is Not Cool'
'Bullying is Not Cool' Sometimes my toddler sings, “Don’t bother me” and every time he does I can’t help but smile. Once I teasingly asked him, “Who’s bothering you?” I found this amusing until this week. I got serious when I thought of Shane, a character on the soap opera, One Life to Live. I thought of what would happen if he said to the kid who was bullying him, “Don’t bother me.” It was discovered that Shane was receiving threatening messages on his laptop. This had been happening … [Read more...]