Positively No Yelling in This House!! That should be a rule you never break! Practice voice modulation; change your voice pitch and avoid crescendos at all cost. Raising your voice to your partner (some would call this yelling) is the worse form of communication. It is emotionally abusive, unfair and shows a high level of disrespect for your love partner. If your partner raises their voice, whether man or woman, back off physically from them, lower your voice to slightly more than a … [Read more...]
Hey, Guys! What Have You Done for Your Sweetheart Today?
May 1, 2013 by
Are you a guy who says, “I Love you” by doing small favors for your darling without her having to ask? That’s a good thing. You are on the right track. It’s the little surprises that you do that serves up a reminder that cause her to feel deeply appreciated and loved. Harry Reis, PhD, professor of psychology at University of Rochester, studied 175 recently wed couples. He found that grand romantic gestures and declarations of everlasting love are not the secrets to marital bliss – it’s the … [Read more...]
NEVER Speak the “D” Word…
April 19, 2013 by
Too many people are too quick to get a divorce. Something happens. You become angry and in the heat of battle, you threaten divorce. You should never make life-changing decisions in the midst of emotional turmoil. Marriage is the most sacred of trusts between two people. When you married, you made some promises. Just because you are disappointed at the anger, bitterness, ambivalence, or venom you are receiving from your partner, remind yourself that divorce is difficult for both people, no … [Read more...]
13 Ways to Get Dad to Help Out More Around the House
April 11, 2013 by
So, Dad hasn’t been picking up on the subtle hints you’ve been dropping. You are at the peak of frustration and almost ready to explode because of his lack of consideration for household chores. Before you get too frazzled, take a minute to remember that no two people communicate in the exact same ways. Inspiring your partner to take a more active interest in the household may require you to take a different approach. 1. Remind Him That Kids Should Learn from Both Parents – When … [Read more...]
Downhill Is Hard, Too!, Larry James
April 3, 2013 by
Larry's Note: The following article is an excerpt from my book, "How to Really Love the One You're With." The Smith Street Society Jazz Band, the band of a musician friend (Bruce McNichols) from New York, is often asked to march in parades. After marching with the wind and the rain in their hair, in the snow and in the heat of summer, he and the band were weary of parades. The last parade they marched in was uphill most of the way. They were exhausted. The band was called and once again … [Read more...]
Does Forgiveness Really Matter?
March 22, 2013 by
Yes, forgiveness matters. For love to be sustained over a lifetime, we must be able to forgive. Inevitably in any relationship, there will be times where your partner will say or do something hurtful. Feelings of pain, sadness, anger, rejection and betrayal may arise. It’s common to feel overwhelmed by our responses and replay the incident over and over in our minds. The feelings intensify. The longer the situation goes unresolved the deeper the pain will be; and the more … [Read more...]
Happiness is to be achieved, not gifted from the Gods!
March 14, 2013 by
So is unhappiness and sadness and any other emotion you choose to feel. No one is happy all of the time. However, those people who are happy most of the time know that happiness should be a natural state. Be responsible for your own happiness. No other person can make you happy. He can't. She can't. It's something you have to do on your own. If you feel it's your partner's fault, think again, and look within to find out what piece may be missing for you. Being happy doesn’t mean that … [Read more...]
Marriage is either a ‘win/win’ or a ‘lose/lose’, 25 tips by CelebrateLove.com
March 10, 2013 by
25 Marriage Tips I thought it might be a good time to present you with twenty-five tips for a successful marriage, to help a wife make her husband happy, and a husband make a wife happy. And so, in no particular order, here is my accumulated wisdom, little as it may be: 1. Talk to your spouse more kindly than you talk to anyone else in the world. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us. 2. Remember that marriage is less about marrying the right person and more … [Read more...]
CelebrateLove, Re-imagine, Re-design and Re-launch Your Relationship!
March 6, 2013 by
Re-imagine, Re-design and Re-launch Your Relationship! After years of being together sometimes you drift away from the feelings you once had when you were first together. Usually one partner notices it before the other. By the time the other partner realizes what's happening, the partner who noticed is ready to leave the relationship and there is shock and they are left wondering what happened. Often it is too late. In my years of relationship coaching I have found that if one partner … [Read more...]
Always Tell the Truth, Larry James
January 17, 2013 by
Always Tell the Truth 'My mother used to say that if you always tell the truth, you never have to remember what you said.' Always telling the truth is the most important consideration in any relationship. Couples should talk with each other openly and honestly to learn more about each other to enhance the relationship, instead of concealing the true sides to cheat each other. When you let your partner know you won't punish them for telling the truth they will be less likely to lie in the … [Read more...]
