Anymore, it is not unusual to find that many married couples often sleep in separate beds. The National Sleep Foundation reported in a 2005 survey that nearly one in four American couples sleep in separate bedrooms or beds. The reasons include snoring, disruptive sleep, temperature preferences, different sleep schedules or sleep habits. Snoring, farting, moaning and stealing the bedcovers can keep anyone up at night. You probably do it, too. I denied it for years because it didn't bother … [Read more...]
What is Verbal Abuse?, Angela Lambert
July 19, 2014 by
Abuse can affect the lives of people regardless of age, gender or social status. Although people most often associate abuse with physical violence, it can come in many different forms including verbal abuse. Because of the nature of verbal abuse, its damaging effects are often underestimated and misunderstood. This can be a problem for people who are the victims of it. In addition, it can make it difficult for people who suspect that a friend or loved one is being verbally abused. To help combat … [Read more...]
Excuses keep your relationships ‘off track’
July 14, 2014 by
If you truly have a desire to have your relationship work, you cannot allow yourself to offer excuses. No excuses! There are only results or reasons why. The reasons why are the excuses we come up with to avoid taking responsibility for our relationship and to avoid doing something we may be afraid to do and know must be done. Just do what must be done! What is YOUR hesitation? Copyright © 2014 - Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry's books, "How to Really Love the One … [Read more...]
CelebrateLove ~ An Affirmation for Letting Go
July 11, 2014 by
I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer insist upon my choice. I am willing to trust. I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me! I let … [Read more...]
Rewind to the Good Times!, Larry James
July 7, 2014 by
Rewind to the Good Times! Happily ever after is complicated. Happy weddings are a dime a dozen, however, happy marriages are much more rare and therefore more precious than gold. It's important to think to the future, say, 50 years down the road and wonder if the person you have chosen - with things sagging and the wrinkles more predominant, etc., etc., - is this someone you will still be excited to be with and love? Or will you say to yourself, "What the hell was I thinking?" I … [Read more...]
A Red Rose Bud For Her Pillow…
July 4, 2014 by
A Red Rose Bud For Her Pillow… Some men just don't get it! They say they love their partner, but rarely surprise her with something romantic. Taking the time to stop by a card or flower shop to do more than tell her how much you care without words is a great idea. A flower is a beautiful way to convey unspoken meaning. Women love surprises. Especially the ones that show that you were thinking about her and that you had to go a little out of your way to make it happen. So... guys! … [Read more...]
Do You and Your Partner Go to Bed at the Same Time?
June 21, 2014 by
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? The one thing distinguishing a good marriage is that couples go to sleep with each other and wake up with each other. When partners don't go to bed at the same time, they miss a critical time for connecting. This pattern is the equivalent of a huge lost opportunity for sustaining and nurturing your partnership. The bedroom should be used for sleeping, sexual intimacy, or even pillow … [Read more...]
Are You Settling For Less Than You Deserve?
June 17, 2014 by
Virginia Clark, Guest Author There's a big difference between being accommodating and ignoring your needs. Being single can be frustrating. It can make us feel lonely and sad as we watch our friends pair up and settle down. It might make us feel hopeless and wonder if it will ever be our turn. But that's no reason to settle for a relationship that isn't giving what you want or what you deserve. Settling for less is an epidemic with women. We will settle for less than we deserve in our … [Read more...]
Just BE!
May 28, 2014 by
Just BE! Be fierce. Be vibrant. Be energized. Get outside. Take a break now and then. Have fun. Run. Be accountable. Visualize. Take a new path. Dare to be different. Sport a new color. Stand up for what you believe. Be LOVE! Be honest. Be a volunteer. Clean out your closet. Hit the gym. Get motivated. Acknowledge others. Be relaxed. Be your own happy pill. Get invigorated. Be who you really are. Be your authentic self. Be enough. Get out and discover. BE with your partner. Get pumped. … [Read more...]
Giving Up My To-Do List and Finding My Life
May 12, 2014 by
Last April, just after dinner, Brian sat me down on the couch and said something that was the equivalent of the heart-stopping phrase, “We have to talk.” I remember this sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, followed by the thought, “Oh no, what have I done?” With the passing of my sister, Debbie, in February, we had both been through several brutal months, trying our best to survive as she slipped away from us. Neither one of us were getting much sleep, both of us deep in our … [Read more...]
‘Say Something ….’
May 8, 2014 by
As a relationship coach I often have clients who are having what most people consider the number one problem in relationships: Communication Issues. Or maybe I should say, poor communication skills. "Communication troubles can stem from childhood experiences, in which we may learn to “stuff” our feelings, blame others, blow-up in anger, “beat around the bush” instead of saying what we need, want, or feel, or otherwise experience--and imitate - counterproductive communication habits. Sometimes, … [Read more...]
