You can argue and still have a happy marriage - if your arguments lead to solutions rather than lingering bitterness. Four ways to encourage this... Alter argument patterns ~ Many couples have fallen into argument patterns that lead to more anger instead of a peaceful resolution. Maybe she criticizes, he gets defensive, she dredge up an old disagreement, he insults her, than she storms off - again and again. Making even a minor change near the outset of an argument could prevent this … [Read more...]
How to Argue With Your Partner, Laurie Puhn, Guest Author
Everything We Think We Know About Marriage/Divorce is Wrong!
Shaunti Feldhahn, Guest Author Have you ever quoted the facts about the 50% divorce rate? Yeah? So have I. Have you ever lamented the fact that the divorce rate was the same in the church? Or that most marriages are just hanging in there, not vibrant and happy? Have you seen or shared the sobering statistic that most second marriages don’t make it? Or talked about marriage being hard? Perhaps like you, I have said every one of those things - whether just to friends … [Read more...]
“I have a confession to make. I’m dating someone I married”
This Man Is Dating Someone Although He’s Married. Sounds Disgusting, AND I’m On His Side. Jarrid Wilson, Guest Author “I have a confession to make. I’m dating someone even though I’m married." She’s an incredible girl. She’s beautiful, smart, cunning, strong, and has an immensely strong faith in God. I love to take her out to dinner, movies, local shows, and always tell her how beautiful she is. I can’t remember the last time I was mad at her for longer than five minutes, and … [Read more...]
Relationships Only Thrive in a Safe Space, Chris Prentiss
"We find rest in those we love, and we provide a resting place in ourselves for those who love us." ~ Bernard of Clairvaux (1090-1153) Your relationship thrives, withers, lives, or dies in an environment. If the environment in which your relationship lives is harsh and unforgiving, a place where sarcasm, degradation, and anger is present and where forgiveness, thoughtfulness, and love are in short supply, your relationship will wither and die... painfully. It will die just as a garden dies … [Read more...]
How Can You Have a Loving Relationship?
As many of you know who avidly read my blogs, I am passionate about helping people improve troubled relationships. Further, I enjoy helping people make good relationships even better. Wherever I go I talk to people; somehow the conversation moves to relationships and my passion gets ignited. The other day I was at the ice skating rink with my granddaughter, a place I frequent on a regular basis. I was talking with a lovely staff member about my soon to be released romance novel and her … [Read more...]
7 Things to Make Positive Thinking Effective
7 Things You Should Do to Make Positive Thinking Effective Dana Saviuc, Guest Author Yesterday I wrote a post on "Why Positive Thinking Won’t Guarantee You Positive Results" and just like I promised, today I will go deeper into the topic and talk about the 7 things you should do to make positive thinking effective. 1. Ownership ~ Whenever we get angry or irritated because of something people say or do to us it is so because we project our own shadows and our own darkness on to … [Read more...]
Is He the One? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself
by Larry James with Lindsay Kriger, Guest Author Many times we love someone but we aren’t sure if they are the right one for us. Love can be super confusing! If we want to be in a loving relationship, we must start by being loving to ourselves. "Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last … [Read more...]
15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy, Larry James
Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go: 1. Give up your need to always be … [Read more...]
How a Trip to the Grocery Store Can Feed Your Sex Life – (Guys! Pay Attention!)
(Guys! Pay Attention!) Do you sometimes wonder what happened to that randy, can’t-get-enough couple you used to be? You know, before the fatigue of everyday life set in and before the kids arrived. Back when you could have the week from hell and still strap on your dancing’ shoes and, after a great night out, have energy for sex. If you just sighed nostalgically, I get it. I understand how easy it is to let the demands of everyday life take precedence over romance. I know how easy it … [Read more...]
CelebrateLove.com, ‘ Intimacy… It Can Mean Many Things ‘
Intimacy… It Can Mean Many Things by Larry James Barbara Peters, Guest Author I have an amazing job. Every day I meet so many interesting people willing to share their stories, and each introduces me to something new to broaden my view of the world. Recently intimacy was the focus of a couple’s counseling session. The wife had been concerned about the lack of intimacy in their marriage. Her husband had a surprised, almost quizzical, look on his face as she made her … [Read more...]
CelebrateLove.com shares Ten Commandments of Co-Parenting
Ten Commandments of Co-Parenting Lynn Nelson, Guest Author - 1. Resolve conflicts without putting kids in the middle. This requires being objective about your children’s needs (and not confusing them with your own) and compromising when the situation warrants. Stick with a conflict until it’s resolved; don’t let a problem fester and then punish the other parent passive-aggressively or be difficult in unrelated situations. 2. Treat the other parent … [Read more...]
Women, Forgive Your Past Relationship
CelebrateLove.com has shared an amazing book here today ... "Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future." ~ Paul Boese Donna Marie Thompson, PhD, Guest Author So here you are – your relationship is over – yet it still lingers in your mind. It still lingers in your heart. All of the hurts, all of the trauma, all of the drama. You might be wondering, when does it just go away? Well the pain might fade over time, but true healing only comes with forgiveness. … [Read more...]
‘Some Women Can’t Commit’ – CelebrateLove.com: Bob Bryce, Guest Author
Some Women Can’t Commit It’s a fact of life for the modern lady, committing to someone is far more difficult than it used to be. 'Commitment means compromise.' Women complain that there are no eligible men anymore and that they have trouble finding anyone who matches up to their most basic requirements. It’s not very often that you would hear a man saying that there aren’t enough eligible females out there and could say they are too picky though. Men used to be … [Read more...]