Time and time again, when I do personal consultations, people tell me how they struggle to break away from a relationship with a sociopath. You know the involvement is bad for you. But even when you’re not forced to interact with the sociopath — you’re not married, don’t have kids with the person and don’t work together — you can’t cut the cord. Why? Because relationships with sociopaths are highly addictive. There are psychological and biological reasons for this, which I’ll … [Read more...]
The Best Gift for Your Holiday Honey
December 14, 2014 by
Are you wondering, what is the best gift for your honey this holiday season? Relationships and marriages become stressed around the holidays. Too much to do and not enough time. What tends to fall to the bottom of our lists is making time to connect with our partners. It doesn’t have to be this way. With just a little thoughtfulness, your relationship can flourish during the holidays. Several years ago Bob and I wrote about what we call “Holi-Dates.” Holi-Date – A short, sweet date with … [Read more...]
Guys! Know When to Zip Your Lip!
September 24, 2014 by
"Does this dress make my butt look big?" Woah, Dude! Shut my mouth! Is this a trick question? How do you answer a question like that? You are about to enter a minefield. If you do answer, do so at your own risk. What if she actually has a big butt? Not a lot of wiggle room there. Women should know better than to ask the question that way (grow up and quit asking questions that require your man to lie). In a survey I read recently, women resoundingly responded that the perfect answer is "No, … [Read more...]
What is Verbal Abuse?, Angela Lambert
July 19, 2014 by
Abuse can affect the lives of people regardless of age, gender or social status. Although people most often associate abuse with physical violence, it can come in many different forms including verbal abuse. Because of the nature of verbal abuse, its damaging effects are often underestimated and misunderstood. This can be a problem for people who are the victims of it. In addition, it can make it difficult for people who suspect that a friend or loved one is being verbally abused. To help combat … [Read more...]
Do You and Your Partner Go to Bed at the Same Time?
June 21, 2014 by
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? The one thing distinguishing a good marriage is that couples go to sleep with each other and wake up with each other. When partners don't go to bed at the same time, they miss a critical time for connecting. This pattern is the equivalent of a huge lost opportunity for sustaining and nurturing your partnership. The bedroom should be used for sleeping, sexual intimacy, or even pillow … [Read more...]
‘Say Something ….’
May 8, 2014 by
As a relationship coach I often have clients who are having what most people consider the number one problem in relationships: Communication Issues. Or maybe I should say, poor communication skills. "Communication troubles can stem from childhood experiences, in which we may learn to “stuff” our feelings, blame others, blow-up in anger, “beat around the bush” instead of saying what we need, want, or feel, or otherwise experience--and imitate - counterproductive communication habits. Sometimes, … [Read more...]
“How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways…,”
April 18, 2014 by
Elizabeth Barrett Browning's begins... How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. How long has it been since you wrote your sweetheart a beautiful sonnet or simply told her/him, "I love you." Marriage and relationship experts agree on the importance of communicating love to our partners often and in a variety of forms. We often forget to show the ones we love how important they are to us. Simply saying, "I love you," is one way, but there are many other ways. Be creative. Do it with … [Read more...]
CelebrateLove.com, You Don’t Get Happy By Accident!
April 6, 2014 by
Are you tired of waiting around for happiness to find you? ...and waiting and waiting and waiting. Happiness can't find you and you cannot find happiness. Happiness is not something to be found... it exists whenever you decide you want it to. Notice I said, "You decide!" Happiness is a conscious decision that pushes it to express itself. Your thoughts become words, words become acts, acts become habits, habits express your character and your character becomes your destiny. Imagine if … [Read more...]
