Tips For Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Partner

You love your partner and want nothing but the best for them, but that doesn’t mean you’re always happy. Remember that it’s a partnership and you’re both responsible for making it work. Of course, there are times you feel neglected, alone and wonder why you’re together in the first place. This is normal and all couples go through it. It’s what you do to help recharge your relationship that matters. Marriage is hard work and requires maintenance and effort. Instead of wanting to give up, try … [Read more...]

History of Valentine’s Day

Valentine's Day, also called Saint Valentine's Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is an annual holiday celebrated on February 14. It originated as a Western Christian liturgical feast day honoring one or more early saints named Valentinus, and is recognized as a significant cultural and commercial celebration in many regions around the world, although it is not a public holiday in any country. Several martyrdom stories associated with the various Valentines that were connected to February … [Read more...]

When YOU Stop Paying Attention, Larry James

When You Stop Paying Attention to Your Marriage… It begins to fall apart. Slowly at first. Then the consistent lack of attention begins to gain momentum until the divorce papers are served and you're shocked! You ponder, "I should have known." And you would have known but you were not paying attention! A plant that is not watered eventually loses its spark. Many relationships need to be watered too. They become stale and stagnant. Both partners are stuck but cannot see that their lack … [Read more...]

LOVE like an Albatross, Larry James

The word 'albatross' is sometimes used metaphorically to mean a psychological burden that feels like a curse. It is an allusion to Samuel Taylor Coleridge's poem, "The Rime of the Ancient Mariner" (1798). In the poem, an albatross starts to follow a ship - being followed by an albatross was generally considered an omen of good luck. However, the titular mariner shoots the albatross with a crossbow, which is regarded as an act that will curse the ship (which indeed suffers terrible … [Read more...]

Sociopaths make for Addictive Relationships

Time and time again, when I do personal consultations, people tell me how they struggle to break away from a relationship with a sociopath. You know the involvement is bad for you. But even when you’re not forced to interact with the sociopath — you’re not married, don’t have kids with the person and don’t work together — you can’t cut the cord. Why? Because relationships with sociopaths are highly addictive. There are psychological and biological reasons for this, which I’ll … [Read more...]

The Best Gift for Your Holiday Honey

Are you wondering, what is the best gift for your honey this holiday season? Relationships and marriages become stressed around the holidays. Too much to do and not enough time. What tends to fall to the bottom of our lists is making time to connect with our partners. It doesn’t have to be this way. With just a little thoughtfulness, your relationship can flourish during the holidays. Several years ago Bob and I wrote about what we call “Holi-Dates.” Holi-Date – A short, sweet date with … [Read more...]

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button?‏, Larry James

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button? by Larry James If your relationship is not gaining ground... you could begin again (with the same partner)! Be warned: Once a choice is made to end the relationship no amount of coaching, no communication techniques will make the relationship work unless - you and your partner make the decision that you want to have a relationship with your partner and decide how you want to make it work. If you can make that decision then you have taken the first … [Read more...]

How to Argue With Your Partner‏, Laurie Puhn, Guest Author

You can argue and still have a happy marriage - if your arguments lead to solutions rather than lingering bitterness. Four ways to encourage this... Alter argument patterns ~ Many couples have fallen into argument patterns that lead to more anger instead of a peaceful resolution. Maybe she criticizes, he gets defensive, she dredge up an old disagreement, he insults her, than she storms off - again and again. Making even a minor change near the outset of an argument could prevent this … [Read more...]

Guys! Know When to Zip Your Lip!‏

"Does this dress make my butt look big?" Woah, Dude! Shut my mouth! Is this a trick question? How do you answer a question like that? You are about to enter a minefield. If you do answer, do so at your own risk. What if she actually has a big butt? Not a lot of wiggle room there. Women should know better than to ask the question that way (grow up and quit asking questions that require your man to lie). In a survey I read recently, women resoundingly responded that the perfect answer is "No, … [Read more...]

Expectancy vs. Expectations‏, Larry James

Recently I heard the someone say, "Everyone is doing the best they can," and it caused me to stop and think about what that means. Sometimes we tend to view other people with a critical eye and say they should or shouldn't do this or that. However, if we remember that they are doing the best they can, then there is seldom any room in our mind for criticism. Instead of criticism we can offer acceptance and understanding, (and forgiveness, if necessary) and we can replace expectations with … [Read more...]

What is Verbal Abuse?, Angela Lambert

Abuse can affect the lives of people regardless of age, gender or social status. Although people most often associate abuse with physical violence, it can come in many different forms including verbal abuse. Because of the nature of verbal abuse, its damaging effects are often underestimated and misunderstood. This can be a problem for people who are the victims of it. In addition, it can make it difficult for people who suspect that a friend or loved one is being verbally abused. To help combat … [Read more...]

CelebrateLove ~ An Affirmation for Letting Go‏

I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer insist upon my choice. I am willing to trust. I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me! I let … [Read more...]

Apples and Oranges talk STEAK, Lauren Millman

Did you know....I can help you stop over-eating, or feeling like you can't eat. I was there once, and it was the worst time of my life. Being cognitive of your own behavior works! HOW? Because the dissension and angst you're feeling in any of your relationships can be solved. You can make any situation better. I don't want you to feel this way one second longer. IS TODAY GOING TO BE THE DAY? Here are some solutions you can put into ACTION as soon as you choose to do something … [Read more...]

Do You and Your Partner Go to Bed at the Same Time?

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? The one thing distinguishing a good marriage is that couples go to sleep with each other and wake up with each other. When partners don't go to bed at the same time, they miss a critical time for connecting. This pattern is the equivalent of a huge lost opportunity for sustaining and nurturing your partnership. The bedroom should be used for sleeping, sexual intimacy, or even pillow … [Read more...]

‘Say Something ….’

As a relationship coach I often have clients who are having what most people consider the number one problem in relationships: Communication Issues. Or maybe I should say, poor communication skills. "Communication troubles can stem from childhood experiences, in which we may learn to “stuff” our feelings, blame others, blow-up in anger, “beat around the bush” instead of saying what we need, want, or feel, or otherwise experience--and imitate - counterproductive communication habits. Sometimes, … [Read more...]

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