How deep is your love?

How Far Would You Go to Prove Your Love?

How far would you really go to support someone you say you love? How deep is your love?

Have you ever said, “I would give my life for her or him? Would you really jump in front of a bullet for your partner? Under what circumstances? How strong is your commitment? Are you willing to put your commitment on the line?

If you would, does that mean that you consider your life as unimportant next to the loved one or is it just something to say to evidence the depth of your feelings for your partner? It’s about sacrifice and love.

Why do some people confront danger while most scamper for the exits? Are you one who, in a perilous emergency, thinks with your legs? Altruism emerges in many disasters. Some time ago, three women came forward to say they survived the cinema shooting in Aurora, CO, because their boyfriends shielded them. All three men are dead. They are considered heros. The three survivors escaped with minor wounds, but were left with broken hearts because their heroic boyfriends died saving them.

It’s really easy to say that you would die for someone. It’s a whole other thing when the opportunity arrives. Is the inate instinct for self preservation stronger than you suspect?

“Greater love has no man than this, that a man gives up his life for his friends.” ~ John 15:13

In a survey of 101 people on WeddingBee.com, 82% said they would take a bullet for the person they married or were going to marry? 13% said no and 5% were uncertain. One said, “without a second thought or backwards glance.” Another said, “I would because dying is way better than living with a guilty conscience.”

Dave Ramsey says, “If you wouldn’t take a bullet for someone, you shouldn’t marry them.”

How deep is your love? It’s something to seriously think about!

We can speak words and they can mean nothing. Or we can speak words and they can mean everything. “I love you.” Say it even when you don’t feel like it. When you say, “I love you,” it takes the focus away from you and puts it on your partner. They need to hear those words often. They truly mean something.

It’s too late to jump in front of the gun once the trigger has been pulled. Since we never know just when our time will be up, it’s important to tell the people we care about that we love them. The fact is that three simple words “I love you” when said, when you really mean them, have the power to uplift, to heal, to comfort, to calm and reassure.

Rabbi Shmuley says, “No emotion is real unless it moves you. If it doesn’t find expression in speech or action, it is unimportant, shallow and false. Therefore, don’t just feel love, say it, show it, give it.”

There are many feelings that we experience every second of every day. Some are stronger than others. No matter how far you would go to prove your love, never ever underestimate the importance of saying, “I love you.” Just say it!

BONUS Article: How Deep Is Your Love? – Quiz

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.