If you do not cherish the companionship you find with yourself, then you can never find it with someone else.
It is important to be your own best friend. Doing so gives you knowledge of yourself. You must have a clear understanding of what true friendship is before you can earn the right to share it with someone else.
Once that status is achieved, the warmth of the friendship you have for yourself will radiate and attract another who has shared a similar experience; someone who will appreciate you for the true friend you really are.
One more thing, never look for a relationship if you are lonely. No one else can make you happy. You have to do that for yourself and you can’t be happy if you are lonely all the time.
Remember, “like attracts like!” Lonely people seem to either choose to remain alone or to hang out with other lonely people. You will not find love there. Lonely people often show up as being very needy. My best advice: Avoid them!
If you have just come from a relationship, you would be wise to not jump back into another relationship too soon. Give yourself some time for the hurt to heal. Take as much time as you need.
The good news is… once you can be okay with being alone and not be lonely… love will find you. However, it will only find you if you make yourself available for love. Mix and mingle with single friends. Live your life. Focus on having fun with other singles. Keep working on you to make yourself ready for Love.
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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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