The Couples Commitment Code‏, Larry James

Couples Commitment Code

 
Is a promise to stay together, come what may and if one decides to leave, the other partner goes with them – partners for good.

A couple’s level of commitment to this “Couples Commitment Code” is an idea of the mind that bears witness to the thought that when it comes to your relationship, there is no possibility that the love energy you feel together could ever feel the same alone.

This idea greatly influences the tone of the relationship.

• Couples commitment demonstrates respect for one another.
• Couples commitment negates the possibility of separation.
• Couples commitment impacts the capacity for a deeper level of love for each other.

There is an awareness of unique relationship dynamics that are more intense than expected. You are deeply aware that the circumstances of your commitment are yours for the asking.

• Couples commitment has you honor Team as an action that you both take equal responsibility for.
• Couples commitment eliminates risk.
• Couples commitment offers a freedom to be who you really are when you are together or apart.

Your vision of your future together is a shared vision. That means that you actually talk to each other about your togetherness.

• Couples commitment •says• conflict may arise and when it does, it’s important to remember that the commitment you have made together gives you the tools you need to move past it – working together.
• Couples commitment allows your partner to see through you to the real you. Transparency strengthens couples’ commitment.
• Couples commitment says The quality of their relationship is quantified by their belief that being together in a committed relationship really means together. That belief is essential for the successful frution of the relationship.
• Couples commitment is the inertia of your romantic partnership.
• Couples commitment gives you insight for keeping romance and spontaneity active. It breeds within each of you a resistant to ambivalence.
• Couples commitment’s powerful affect impacts the relationships of your family and friends.

It gives “common sense” a new meaning.

There is no back door. None!

“Commitment is not a very “sexy” word or concept but it probably has more to do with making marriages work than anything save common values. Commitment is a choice to give up choices.

Although this might at first sound limiting, it actually brings great freedom and depth. No longer does the committed person need to weigh which person or way of life will bring more happiness. Once committed, all one’s energy goes into making this commitment work. No longer are other possibilities a distraction.” ~ ForYourMarriage.org

Larry’s NOTE: I do not know who wrote The Couples Commitment Code or I would give them credit. If you know, please let me know. Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.