Awakening to Self – WOMEN in RECOVERY

The Awakening

A time comes in your life when you finally get it (when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity), a moment when you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out … “ENOUGH!”  Enough blaming, crying, fighting, struggling to hold on.  Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your Awakening.

You finally realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for ‘something to change’ for nothing will ever change until you do; and when you look back, you realize everything is different.

You realize that that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you; a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are; that’s OK, for everyone entitled to their own perception.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself; in this process a sense of confidence is born, a knowing of self worth.

You stop blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you, embracing the reality that the only thing you can really count on is the ‘un’– expected.

Life becomes and Adventure!

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say, for growth is a unique and personal experience.

You accept that not everyone will always be there for you, that everything is not always about you; freeing yourself from being the center of this universe.

You learn to stand on your own and to Take Action for and of yourself, developing an inherent sense of safety and security that is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers, accepting people as they are, overlooking their shortcomings and human frailties; embracing a sense of peace through understanding that contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view; allowing yourself to accept who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing; discarding the doctrines and values you have outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing; appreciating that maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix does not create fulfillment in self.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era; rather the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which one must build a life.

You learn that you don’t need to know everything, save the world; that only through positive contribution will you learn about love.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.

You learn that alone does not mean lonely. In this process, you grow to appreciate the value of solitude.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes, learning to let go and simply enjoy the ride.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

In this process, a new found belief system is developed enlightening the true purpose of self-care, a knowing that self is only good for the whole when healthy.

• You learn that your body really is your temple.
• You begin to care for it and treat it with respect.
• You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty, so you take more time to rest.

You learn that food only fuels the body, that laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for; that ‘dreaming’for something to happen is different than working toward making a ‘dream’ happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance.

You learn …

that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

 
You learn ‘the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself’.

You learn to step right into and walk through your fears with an inner knowing that whatever happens you can handle it, for all is exactly the way it should be and everything happens for a reason.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom, as this awakened sense of appreciation changes perspective.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.

You learn not to always take it personally, trusting that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault.

It’s just life happening!

You learn to admit when you are wrong, building bridges instead of walls.

You learn that ‘negative feelings‘ such as anger, envy and resentment have power; that they must be understood and neutralized or they will suffocate you, poisoning the universe that surrounds you through their own butterfly effect.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in the simple things we take for granted, for only the state of gratitude brings peace.

You begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself, embracing the journey.

You make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire, for only the truth will set you free.

You make it a point to keep smiling, keep trusting, staying open to every wonderful possibility this life has to behold.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Then, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you Take Action to design the life you want to live as best as you can 😉 YOU are now on the Road to Recovery !!!

 

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