Starting Over inside the Now – WOMEN in RECOVERY

Three ways to change your life for the better.

• Doing a daily self talk can change your life for the better.
• Writing a daily journal can change your life for the better.
• Living in the now can change your life for the better.

There is a lot of advice out there about how to improve yourself, your life and your lot, but in the glut of self help advice what exactly do you need to do to change your life for the better?

Even if we are reasonably happy we normally have something worrying us; the plight of others or the world, a feeling of lack of personal achievement, changes happening in our lives outside of our control, regrets about the past or choices we have made, worries about getting ill or even dying.

Sometimes we just can’t put a finger on what is really bothering us or we think we know but on eliminating the preceived problem we still find ourselves unhappy or unfulfilled.

Here is a way to create your personal plan for growth.

By working out what you need to change and then following it up you can get straight to the point. If there are several issues you may have to address them one at a time, at worst you should go away with some food for thought.

Assess yourself and work on the specific areas that come out as being of a major concern.

Writing a daily journal can change your life for the better.

This is a new one for me. I have always taken notes but lately I have been using my laptop or ipad to record my information.

It has come to my attention that there is a magic to writing things down. The physical affects of using pen and paper to record your thoughts is actually the very first step to manifesting them.

The brain commences to create neural pathways for the new information to be processed. This allows the subconscious mind to begin working at using the information.

So here it is by writing down your daily actions and reflections, you are in fact storing the information directly to the subconscious part of your mind.

The beauty of this is that once it’s in, the conscious part of your mind cannot conflict with it. So this helps to remove any self sabotage that might take place.

I am thinking out loud here, would it be more powerful to write down the self talk one hundred times. No not because you have been naughty at school and to reinforce your bad behaviour.

Extrapolating what I wrote before about the information going straight through to the subconscious mind makes me think that this would indeed be very powerful.

I will certainly be trialing it. I’ll let you know how it goes

Living in the now can change your life for the better.

Making focused decisions, with clarity and the wisdom of the sixth sense can certainly change your life for the better.

I have always wondered if living in the now means forgetting about the past and shutting out the future.

A brilliant lady on one of our calls explained it for me rather succinctly.

“We use the knowledge and wisdom of the past to make the best decisions in the present. This has the potential to maximize the future.”

When we do this we are not dwelling on the past or being anxious about the future. Our focus is solely and purely on the decision we are faced with then and there. The past we cannot change and the future will sort itself out by the decision we make right then and there.

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tess marshall’s story

My father had an 8th grade education and my mother attended school through 6th grade. My life changed when our parish priest convinced me to enroll at the local university and attend college part time.

I was born on an 88 acre produce and trucking farm. When we turned five years old we were required to plant, weed, and pick produce along side our migrant workers. My sisters and I worked out in the fields in the sun, in the cold, in the rain and in the midst of lightening and thunder. On alternate days of the week we sold our produce at the Farmer’s Market. On the farm our studies were not a priority, work was. There was never time allowed for studying until the work was finished. The problem was it was never finished. Consequently, we were too tired to study, so when it came to grades my siblings and I slid by.

I never thought I was smart enough to attend college. My only goal was to leave the farm after meeting my boyfriend when I was 15. I was pregnant and married at 17. Without a plan for my life I was mom to four daughters at age 22.

I had dug myself a deep hole. My husband had two jobs to support us. I began a flower business from home. We attended church because it allowed us to sit still for an hour while the girls attended Sunday school.

Father Don, young and hip, helped coach the women’s softball team I joined. After the games the team would go out for drinks and listen to Father Don discuss his “hip philosophy.”

It was Father Don who convinced me to go to college. I was afraid I wasn’t smart enough, but he wouldn’t take no for an answer. He helped me choose two classes, “How to Study” and “Speed Reading.” He showed me around campus pointing out the buildings where my classes were held. I aced my classes.

Because being a good parent was my priority, I never carried more than two or three classes at a time. After nine years I graduated.

Hemingway wrote, “The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places.”

I felt strong, and able to conquer the world on graduation day! The girls were in high school when I went on to graduate school where I earned my Master’s in Psychology. Two years later I opened a private practice. ~ Tess Marshall The Bold Life.