A Guide To Managing A Separation

Experiencing heartbreak at the breakdown of a marriage can seriously take its toll especially if you have built a life together. While there is no magic guide to handling this situation and every rela-tionship is different, there are a few steps that you can take to make this process easier so that you can recover as quickly as possible and start a new chapter in your life. There are sure to be a few dark days as well as a few that are not so bad and ultimately it will take time to heal your wounds, but here are a few key areas to address when a relationship struts to break down.

Deciding Whether To Stay Together Or Separate

First, you need to decide whether or not you will stay together and this can be an incredibly diffi-cult decision that ultimately only you can make. This will depend entirely on your relationship, but you need to think about key factors such as:

* Your happiness
* Whether or not you are communicating
* Your sex life
* If you are constantly fighting
* Boredom
* What the future looks like
* Whether or not they have cheated

It should not be an emotionally reactive decision, plus you should consider couples therapy and other alternatives before separating. Therapy can be a great way to work through underlying is-sues.

Speak To A Lawyer

It is a good idea to speak to a lawyer as soon as possible to get the ball rolling so that important aspects like children, finances, and property can be handled professionally. Additionally, a firm that specializes in divorce will be able to help you with your options as you may find that a marriage annulment is the best choice. This is a way to show that the marriage was never legally valid which could be preferable to a divorce.

Creating A Temporary Plan

A divorce can be a long and difficult process. Once you have decided to split up, you will need to come up with a temporary plan until you have separated and can start to build a new life. This temporary plan may involve one of you living with a friend or relative, but it can be particularly complicated if there are children involved, so you need to think about them too.

Be Patient & Calm

It is easier said than done, but it is best to be as patient and calm during this period as possible as it may take some time for issues to be resolved. You may want to start moving on and to start a new life as soon as possible, but it is essential to give the divorce your full attention to make sure that it is as healthy split as possible. This means that during this time you also need to take care of your physical and mental health and rely on those around you for support.

The breakdown of a marriage will always be an incredibly emotional and difficult time. It is important that you react with your head during this period to determine what the best course of action is and the above are the key stages to go through if you find that separation is on the cards.

Thanks to Fatima

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