Pain To Gain-Ten Leadership Lessons Learned

From Pain To Gain:  Ten Leadership Lessons Learned

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If you are a trailblazer  who wants to not simply optimize strengths but transform changes/challenges into a lever for your greatest ability; I hope this post will motivate you.

If you are a leader who aspires to building an organization where purpose, engagement,  innovation, communication, collaboration (the fire of human potential shines and grows); I hope this post will inspire you.

If you are working/living on over-drive, stuck in a rut/stasis or feeling lost;   I hope this post will motivate you to look within and reclaim your power.

If you are a  member of any ethnic group/gender that has traditionally be disenfranchised;  I hope you will recognize your ability, our ability to light a candle that can drive unity and strength among all people sharing this earth.
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Since writing my story,  Against All Odds, my journey has included some of the greatest challenges I have ever faced; I guess the pivot points in my journey were pain points that would have compelled most people to simply give up.  As a young child, on a journey that encompassed tragedy, abuse, pain and a myriad of  challenges I discovered that the greatest power we have is in the hope, faith, courage, integrity and humanity that lights a fire in our soul.  I learned that the values we cherish are the formula for our greatest success or a descent into an endless trajectory of ego driven illusions that never really help us achieve our greatest purpose. I learned that we each have a unique footprint, a unique gift/contribution to share in our lifetime; each positive step forward that is alignment with hope, faith, courage, integrity and humanity takes us all forward.

From Pain To Gain:  Ten Lessons Learned

Lesson One:  Leadership is about thought and action; it is also about nurturing the greatness in others. We can all learn to lead forward in different ways, those who lead in a BIG way will be guided by a vision, a purpose and a commitment that is larger than themselves and speaks to the values/spiritual quotient that can guide us forward individually and collectively.

Lesson Two:  Those who abuse power, position to get ahead or dominate others may win in the short term, but their playbook will never give them the sense of fulfillment they truly desire. After our survival needs are met, we all seek to be loved.  Love is what drive us all.  We crave it, we need it, and those who abuse power will never truly find it.

Lesson Three:  Success is a me to we equation. Life, business and success are all human equations that rely upon the strength and integrity of the relationships we build and nurture. The global village that Marshall McCluhan spoke of in the 1970′s is now a reality, the social, digital and virtual landscape of our lives, our business and organizations is based on the relationships be develop.  Success is a me to we equation.

Lesson Four:  The best business idea is impotent without the business strategy, financial capital, human capital to transform what is into what can be. Building a business, an organization, a professional practice requires not only courage and tenacity but the knowledge, collaboration and focus that are the building blocks of success.

Lesson Five:  If you want to be a change-maker expect to be tested and challenged at every corner.  Every step of the journey will be challenged by those who see you as a threat to the status quo.  You will be unable to lead forward, to move forward without building a community of purpose, a constituency of those who share your values and objectives and will support your journey against the flow of what is.

Lesson Six: Bad things, terrible things, totally unfair things happen to good people; (great interview with a survivor and thriver, Resiliency Expert, Michael Ballard). It is our spiritual quotient, our belief in a greater power, a bigger picture and purpose we cannot see or understand that can take us through the most difficult of times.  If you are a survivor, you must become a thriver.  Those who thrive in the face of terrible adversity, illness, life/career challenges are those whose are purpose and values centered.  Their values and purpose are a pilot light that keeps their hope, faith and courage shining brightly in the darkest night.

Lesson Seven:  Hope must spring eternal, because without it we are lost.  When we lose hope we lose our power to make a difference, be a difference and to contribute to a better life, better organization and a better world. Keeping hope alive does not mean wearing rosy colored glasses, it means cleaving to the values, the spiritual quotient, the heartbeat of human innovation and potential that glows and grows from within.

Lesson Eight:  Purpose makes profit; what does not create value for ALL constituents will ultimately crash and burn.  The secret to success is simple and timeless; create value for others; the imperative to do so has never been greater.  Organizations who survive and thrive will be communities of purpose who align vision, values, purpose with the engagement of human potential. Our ability to communicate, collaborate and build solutions that take us forward is a group activity.  The members of your group, your team, your community of purpose must be shareholders in the values and objectives that transform me into we!

Lesson Nine: Adaptability-Resiliency-Creativity-Ingenuity rooted in courage, integrity, humanity are the strengths and values that will take us forward individually and collectively.  We must embrace change while guarding the values that are the anchor for a better present and future. The words we use, the thoughts we think impact our potential, optimizing our ability means embracing change and using it to build the adaptability, resiliency, creativity and ingenuity that turns problems into solutions.

Lesson Ten:  Perspective is everything.  What you focus on grows; your perspective is your reality.  Developing a perspective and honing the skills that can help us optimize strengths AND use changes, challenges, stressors, even failures to build IQ (intelligence, strategic thought, ability to learn-relearn faster)  EQ (self awareness, awareness of others, resiliency, social/communication skills)  SQ (values, integrity, purpose, leadership strengths-spiritual quotient) is CRITICAL.

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