Over 40 First Time Bride, Arielle Ford

• Do you believe that if by a certain age you haven’t managed to find that perfect relationship then you perhaps you will never find it?
• Do you think if you haven’t married by a certain age, then forget it… you might as well throw in the towel and start collecting cats?

Arielle Ford, a leading pioneer and personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement, and also the (un)official poster child for the “Over 40 First Time Bride” category, teaches us how using prayers, processes and rituals – aka The Law of Attraction – we can not only attract the ideal person, but we can also attract the ideal soul mate.

Arielle is a nationally recognized speaker, publicist, marketing expert, producer, and author of several bestselling books. She has been instrumental in facilitating the rapid growth of the self-help and human potential movement in the United States and helped launch the careers of visionaries such as Deepak Chopra, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hanson, and Neale Donald Walsch. She is now on a mission to make sure that everyone who desires to spend their life with a Soulmate knows that it’s not only possible to find that person but highly probable if you commit a little time, energy, intention and attention to your love life. She has helped thousands of men and women around the world manifest true love and she can help you can make it happen, too!

Q: How would you, personally, describe a “soul mate?”

A: I believe a soul mate is someone we feel a deep and profound connection to. Someone with whom we feel completely ourselves with. Someone that we love unconditionally and they love us unconditionally. And when we look into their eyes we feel like we are “home.”

Q: What led you to write “The Soulmate Secret”?

A: I learned about the Law of Attraction and various manifestation techniques in the mid-1980’s. Using my new-found wisdom, I created a career that has exceeded all of my expectations. I have worked with the top self-help and spirituality authors of our times including Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, don Miguel Ruiz, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Gary Zukav and many others. When I was in my early forties, I decided to see if I could create rituals, prayers, projects and techniques to manifest my soulmate and guess what? It worked! For years all of my single friends asked me to share my secrets … finally, after many years of marriage, I decided to do just that with this book.

Q: Do you believe everyone has a soul mate and is there only one or can we have more than one?

A: Yes, I do and I believe that with a little focused time and energy everyone can find theirs. While most people think of a soul mate in romantic terms, I also believe that there are other kinds of soul mate relationships. For instance, look at the friendship and connection that Oprah and Gayle King share. I would definitely call that a soulmate relationship. I also believe you can have pets that connect with you on such a deep level that they deserve to be called soul mates.

Q:Why do you think so many people struggle with finding their true love?

A: One of the most common reasons is that after a few bad relationships some people unconsciously shut down and give up. They no longer believe the right person is out there for them and while one part of them is saying “YES, I want a relationship,” the other part is saying “NO! I’m afraid to get hurt again.”

A big part of manifesting love is preparing yourself by overcoming the emotional wounds and baggage that we all have.

In The Soulmate Secret there are processes, projects and emotional release techniques that assist in healing the heart and opening up to love. I wrote The Soulmate Secret so that everyone could have access to finding the relationship of their dreams.

Q:What is the Universal Law that can be used to find your soul mate?

A: It’s called The Law of Attraction and it says that you will attract to you those people, events and experiences that match your state of being. If you focus on having gratitude for the love, companionship and joy you have in your life right NOW, you will attract more of that into your life. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will send out a message of lack and you will attract more lack into your life.

In the movie CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD the character Neale says to God,

“I just want my life back.”

And God says to Neale,

“You can’t have anything that you want.”

They then have an entire dialogue where God explains to Neale that by ‘wanting something (or someone)’ all you get to have is the experience, the feeling of ‘wanting.’

As part of the preparation to manifest your soul mate I suggest that you begin the process of “living as if.” This means that your daily actions become congruent with your beliefs.

Q:What are the key steps to manifesting a soul mate?

A: In addition to healing your heart from past relationships you need to create a clear intention.

The analogy I like to use it this:

When you walk into your favorite coffee hangout what is the first thing you do? Place your order. You confidently tell the barista, “I will have a tall, half-caff, low-fat mocha latte, with a splash of non-sugar vanilla syrup to go.” The barista smiles, writes your order on the side of a cup and takes your money. Within minutes you are walking out the door with the precise, delicious cup of coffee that you ordered. Ordering up a soulmate from the Universe works in a similar way. It’s not always as instantaneous but it can be just as precise. But to have the Universe to deliver your perfect soul mate, you must first CLEARLY place your order. This isn’t quite as easy as it sounds. You must first search your heart for what you really, really desire. By now you know what you DON’T want but you need to ask for what you DO want. In the Soulmate Kit we explain how to place your order by creating a detailed list and we then provide a variety of rituals to do to release your list to the Universe.

Q: Tell us about the woman who used crayons to manifest her soul mate.

A: Her name is Gayle and many years ago she was advised by her astrologer to put her intentions for a soul mate into the world by coloring a mandala. She took a black & white mandala and a rainbow of multi-colored pencils and began declaring her intentions while she colored in a space on the mandala. She asked for things like: finding the perfect spiritual friend and lover to go through life with; a man who is kind to animals; someone who would appreciate her sense of humor; a man who would be accepting and open to her spiritual quest. For each intention she used a different color until the entire mandala became a multi-hued Technicolor testimony to the qualities she desired in her future partner.

Within weeks of doing this she met her soul mate and they have now been married for more than 20 years!

READ MORE … at OM Magazine

Thanks to Liane Legey – WOMAN of ACTION™