Celebrate Larry's Birthday! June 6th, 2013 A birthday is a day when a person celebrates the anniversary of his or her birth. Birthdays are celebrated in numerous cultures, often with a gift, party, or rite of passage. The celebration of a birthday usually is thought to mark how old a person is, traditionally stopping when death occurs and only stating that if still alive, they would have been (number of years) old. Some contemporary writers ignore this aspect, however, and keep … [Read more...]
Resist Exercising Your Voice Power…, Larry James
May 29, 2013 by
Positively No Yelling in This House!! That should be a rule you never break! Practice voice modulation; change your voice pitch and avoid crescendos at all cost. Raising your voice to your partner (some would call this yelling) is the worse form of communication. It is emotionally abusive, unfair and shows a high level of disrespect for your love partner. If your partner raises their voice, whether man or woman, back off physically from them, lower your voice to slightly more than a … [Read more...]
The Couples Commitment Code, Larry James
May 22, 2013 by
Couples Commitment Code Is a promise to stay together, come what may and if one decides to leave, the other partner goes with them - partners for good. A couple's level of commitment to this "Couples Commitment Code" is an idea of the mind that bears witness to the thought that when it comes to your relationship, there is no possibility that the love energy you feel together could ever feel the same alone. This idea greatly influences the tone of the relationship. Couples … [Read more...]
Mother’s Day, A Strawberry Malt and 3 Squeezes, Please!
May 12, 2013 by
NOTE: This story was written to honor Larry's mother's memory and was featured in the New York Times best-selling book, "A Second Helping of Chicken Soup for the Soul." The story appears on page sixteen of the book. My mother used to love strawberry malts. It was a thrill for me to drop in to see her and surprise her with her favorite refreshment. In her later years, both my mom and dad lived in a life-care retirement center. Partially due to the stress of my mom's Alzheimer's condition, … [Read more...]
How to Let Go: The 4 People You Must Forgive
May 9, 2013 by
There are four people you need to forgive if you are serious about changing your life and learning how to live in the now. 1] The first are your parents, living or dead. You must absolutely forgive them for every mistake they ever made in bringing you up. At the very least, you should be grateful to them for giving you life. They got you here. If you are happy to be alive, you can forgive them for everything else. Never complain about them again. Many of my seminar participants have phoned … [Read more...]
My Partner Cheat? Never! ~ 29 Red Flags That May Suggest a Cheater
May 5, 2013 by
Here are a few things that often point a finger to a cheater. While it is true that some of the following red flags may be sure-fire indicators, I've used the words "may suggest a cheater" because it may be wise to give your partner the benefit of the doubt when suspicions arise. To accuse without evidence could cause the flame of your relationship - however much there is - to go out. If your partner is not cheating, then confrontation will most likely cause a major trust issue. It may be … [Read more...]
Hey, Guys! What Have You Done for Your Sweetheart Today?
May 1, 2013 by
Are you a guy who says, “I Love you” by doing small favors for your darling without her having to ask? That’s a good thing. You are on the right track. It’s the little surprises that you do that serves up a reminder that cause her to feel deeply appreciated and loved. Harry Reis, PhD, professor of psychology at University of Rochester, studied 175 recently wed couples. He found that grand romantic gestures and declarations of everlasting love are not the secrets to marital bliss – it’s the … [Read more...]
NEVER Speak the “D” Word…
April 19, 2013 by
Too many people are too quick to get a divorce. Something happens. You become angry and in the heat of battle, you threaten divorce. You should never make life-changing decisions in the midst of emotional turmoil. Marriage is the most sacred of trusts between two people. When you married, you made some promises. Just because you are disappointed at the anger, bitterness, ambivalence, or venom you are receiving from your partner, remind yourself that divorce is difficult for both people, no … [Read more...]
13 Ways to Get Dad to Help Out More Around the House
April 11, 2013 by
So, Dad hasn’t been picking up on the subtle hints you’ve been dropping. You are at the peak of frustration and almost ready to explode because of his lack of consideration for household chores. Before you get too frazzled, take a minute to remember that no two people communicate in the exact same ways. Inspiring your partner to take a more active interest in the household may require you to take a different approach. 1. Remind Him That Kids Should Learn from Both Parents – When … [Read more...]
Downhill Is Hard, Too!, Larry James
April 3, 2013 by
Larry's Note: The following article is an excerpt from my book, "How to Really Love the One You're With." The Smith Street Society Jazz Band, the band of a musician friend (Bruce McNichols) from New York, is often asked to march in parades. After marching with the wind and the rain in their hair, in the snow and in the heat of summer, he and the band were weary of parades. The last parade they marched in was uphill most of the way. They were exhausted. The band was called and once again … [Read more...]
Does Forgiveness Really Matter?
March 22, 2013 by
Yes, forgiveness matters. For love to be sustained over a lifetime, we must be able to forgive. Inevitably in any relationship, there will be times where your partner will say or do something hurtful. Feelings of pain, sadness, anger, rejection and betrayal may arise. It’s common to feel overwhelmed by our responses and replay the incident over and over in our minds. The feelings intensify. The longer the situation goes unresolved the deeper the pain will be; and the more … [Read more...]
Happiness is to be achieved, not gifted from the Gods!
March 14, 2013 by
So is unhappiness and sadness and any other emotion you choose to feel. No one is happy all of the time. However, those people who are happy most of the time know that happiness should be a natural state. Be responsible for your own happiness. No other person can make you happy. He can't. She can't. It's something you have to do on your own. If you feel it's your partner's fault, think again, and look within to find out what piece may be missing for you. Being happy doesn’t mean that … [Read more...]
