How Counseling Helps You Overcome the Loss of a Loved One

One of the biggest challenges in life is losing a loved one. Be it your parents, siblings, friends, even your child – loss is difficult. Loss changes your life, and you will grieve because of it. While grief is normal, sometimes your loss is so great that your grief goes on for a long time. Your grief may include intense sadness, anger, regret, yearning, and/or guilt. Experiencing these feelings leads you to feel depressed, and you start to lose motivation to do the simplest things. While you may never completely move on from the loss of a loved one, counseling can be able to help you pick your life back up, and here’s how.

Counselling can Help You Overcome Regret and Guilt

Oftentimes, grief happens because of regret. Perhaps you wish you could have done more with your loved one while they were still alive. Maybe you said something to them the last time you saw your loved one that you now regret. If your loved one died in a car crash, and you survived, you may have survivor’s guilt.

These emotions are hard to overcome, but a therapist can help you triumph over these emotions and allow you to move on without the guilt and regret making you feel like you’re a bad person.

These emotions are hard to overcome, but a therapist can help you triumph over these emotions and allow you to move on without the guilt and regret making you feel like you’re a bad person.

Counseling can Help Bring Acceptance

It can be hard to accept that your loved one is truly gone. It’s good and healthy to grieve them, but no amount of grief will bring them back. However, at some point, you must continue your life without them. While this may sound hard, counseling can help provide you with the coping skills and tools to help you realize that it can be done.

Counselling can Help You Vent

If you want to reminisce about your loved one, a counselor can be the one who listens to you and provides you with a safe space to talk, and a patient ear. Through hearing your stories, a counselor can identify a reoccurring theme or emotion that may be the cause of your grief. For example, if you’re always talking about your childhood with the person, there may be some childhood trauma you aren’t aware of.

Counseling can Help with Your Life Changes

When a loved one is gone, your life may seem to change for the worse. For example, if you are a parent who lost your spouse, it is hard to raise a child on your own, while you both grieve. A counselor can help you readjust to your new life and succeed as much as possible. Even if you didn’t live with your lost loved one, it can affect your life in subtle ways. A counsellor can help you see all these changes and take steps to fix them.

They can Help You Grieve in a Healthy Manner

A counselor can teach you how to express your emotions and grieve in a way that doesn’t affect your life or your well-being. This isn’t to say that crying and feeling down on occasion isn’t okay, but if you’re experiencing this all the time, you may need to seek therapy. Sometimes, you can grieve through art therapy, or through another outlet that makes you feel accomplished. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help you identify distorted thoughts that you may be having while you are grieving (e.g., “It’s all my fault”), and help you work through those feelings.

These are just a few ways that a counsellor can help you move on from the loss of your loved one. Online counselling services such as are also useful if you need support anywhere, any time. Whenever you have a moment, a counsellor can help you realize that you deserve to live the best life possible, just like your loved one would have wanted.

Marie Miguel Biography

Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health- related topics.

Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with

With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.

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