Here is Your Prescription…, Larry James

On the hit TV show, "Elementary," Sherlock, after lots of banter back and forth with his shrink, his psychiatrist abruptly said, "Hour's up!" and handed him a prescription. It read, "Make one new friend before next week." Friendship is a good thing, however, somehow we all forget how important it is. A friend is someone you know well and care about, who also knows and cares about you. We need more people like this in our lives. Great friendships improve all aspects of our lives. When you … [Read more...]

Celebrating Valentine’s Day: What is LOVE?

What is LOVE? ... a question of the ages. Psychology Today says: "Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or take away love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don't fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the … [Read more...]

Celebrating the History of Valentine’s Day!

THE LEGEND OF ST. VALENTINE The history of Valentine’s Day–and the story of its patron saint–is shrouded in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of romance, and that St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. But who was Saint Valentine, and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? Did You Know? Approximately 150 million Valentine's Day cards are exchanged annually, making … [Read more...]

LOVE like an Albatross, Larry James

The word 'albatross' is sometimes used metaphorically to mean a psychological burden that feels like a curse. It is an allusion to Samuel Taylor Coleridge's poem, "The Rime of the Ancient Mariner" (1798). In the poem, an albatross starts to follow a ship - being followed by an albatross was generally considered an omen of good luck. However, the titular mariner shoots the albatross with a crossbow, which is regarded as an act that will curse the ship (which indeed suffers terrible … [Read more...]

The Best Gift for Your Holiday Honey

Are you wondering, what is the best gift for your honey this holiday season? Relationships and marriages become stressed around the holidays. Too much to do and not enough time. What tends to fall to the bottom of our lists is making time to connect with our partners. It doesn’t have to be this way. With just a little thoughtfulness, your relationship can flourish during the holidays. Several years ago Bob and I wrote about what we call “Holi-Dates.” Holi-Date – A short, sweet date with … [Read more...]

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button?‏, Larry James

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button? by Larry James If your relationship is not gaining ground... you could begin again (with the same partner)! Be warned: Once a choice is made to end the relationship no amount of coaching, no communication techniques will make the relationship work unless - you and your partner make the decision that you want to have a relationship with your partner and decide how you want to make it work. If you can make that decision then you have taken the first … [Read more...]

How to Argue With Your Partner‏, Laurie Puhn, Guest Author

You can argue and still have a happy marriage - if your arguments lead to solutions rather than lingering bitterness. Four ways to encourage this... Alter argument patterns ~ Many couples have fallen into argument patterns that lead to more anger instead of a peaceful resolution. Maybe she criticizes, he gets defensive, she dredge up an old disagreement, he insults her, than she storms off - again and again. Making even a minor change near the outset of an argument could prevent this … [Read more...]

Merry back into your Marry, NOV 12 – DEC 17

TAKING DIVORCE OFF THE TABLE 3 Serious Mistakes Even Smart Professional Moms Make That Keep Them Secretly Worrying About Divorce Mistake #1: Wronging versus Longing Too often couples argue or silently see the over common complaints such as parenting, household tasks, sex and finances without arriving at healthier dynamics that last; with many reverting back to original patterns, causing a familiar reoccurring down ward spiral. You will learn to identify the … [Read more...]

Guys! Know When to Zip Your Lip!‏

"Does this dress make my butt look big?" Woah, Dude! Shut my mouth! Is this a trick question? How do you answer a question like that? You are about to enter a minefield. If you do answer, do so at your own risk. What if she actually has a big butt? Not a lot of wiggle room there. Women should know better than to ask the question that way (grow up and quit asking questions that require your man to lie). In a survey I read recently, women resoundingly responded that the perfect answer is "No, … [Read more...]

Why Do People Get Married?‏

Everyone knows that there are ups and downs to putting a ring on it! Yet, thousands of couples get married every year. Love seems to be the main reason. What's Love got to do with it? A lot. AND Love is never enough! Love usually tops the list with most people. Companionship is a close second. Marriage usually involves tradition, religion, family and/or culture. Signing papers conveys respectability. You don't need a marriage certificate or label to be happy. It's a public declaration of love … [Read more...]

Separate Beds are Liberating, Larry James

Anymore, it is not unusual to find that many married couples often sleep in separate beds. The National Sleep Foundation reported in a 2005 survey that nearly one in four American couples sleep in separate bedrooms or beds. The reasons include snoring, disruptive sleep, temperature preferences, different sleep schedules or sleep habits. Snoring, farting, moaning and stealing the bedcovers can keep anyone up at night. You probably do it, too. I denied it for years because it didn't bother … [Read more...]

What is Verbal Abuse?, Angela Lambert

Abuse can affect the lives of people regardless of age, gender or social status. Although people most often associate abuse with physical violence, it can come in many different forms including verbal abuse. Because of the nature of verbal abuse, its damaging effects are often underestimated and misunderstood. This can be a problem for people who are the victims of it. In addition, it can make it difficult for people who suspect that a friend or loved one is being verbally abused. To help combat … [Read more...]

Excuses keep your relationships ‘off track’

If you truly have a desire to have your relationship work, you cannot allow yourself to offer excuses. No excuses! There are only results or reasons why. The reasons why are the excuses we come up with to avoid taking responsibility for our relationship and to avoid doing something we may be afraid to do and know must be done. Just do what must be done! What is YOUR hesitation? Copyright © 2014 - Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry's books, "How to Really Love the One … [Read more...]

CelebrateLove ~ An Affirmation for Letting Go‏

I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer insist upon my choice. I am willing to trust. I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me! I let … [Read more...]

Rewind to the Good Times!‏, Larry James

Rewind to the Good Times! Happily ever after is complicated. Happy weddings are a dime a dozen, however, happy marriages are much more rare and therefore more precious than gold. It's important to think to the future, say, 50 years down the road and wonder if the person you have chosen - with things sagging and the wrinkles more predominant, etc., etc., - is this someone you will still be excited to be with and love? Or will you say to yourself, "What the hell was I thinking?" I … [Read more...]

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