Sociopaths make for Addictive Relationships

Time and time again, when I do personal consultations, people tell me how they struggle to break away from a relationship with a sociopath. You know the involvement is bad for you. But even when you’re not forced to interact with the sociopath — you’re not married, don’t have kids with the person and don’t work together — you can’t cut the cord. Why? Because relationships with sociopaths are highly addictive. There are psychological and biological reasons for this, which I’ll … [Read more...]

The Best Gift for Your Holiday Honey

Are you wondering, what is the best gift for your honey this holiday season? Relationships and marriages become stressed around the holidays. Too much to do and not enough time. What tends to fall to the bottom of our lists is making time to connect with our partners. It doesn’t have to be this way. With just a little thoughtfulness, your relationship can flourish during the holidays. Several years ago Bob and I wrote about what we call “Holi-Dates.” Holi-Date – A short, sweet date with … [Read more...]

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button?‏, Larry James

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button? by Larry James If your relationship is not gaining ground... you could begin again (with the same partner)! Be warned: Once a choice is made to end the relationship no amount of coaching, no communication techniques will make the relationship work unless - you and your partner make the decision that you want to have a relationship with your partner and decide how you want to make it work. If you can make that decision then you have taken the first … [Read more...]

How to Argue With Your Partner‏, Laurie Puhn, Guest Author

You can argue and still have a happy marriage - if your arguments lead to solutions rather than lingering bitterness. Four ways to encourage this... Alter argument patterns ~ Many couples have fallen into argument patterns that lead to more anger instead of a peaceful resolution. Maybe she criticizes, he gets defensive, she dredge up an old disagreement, he insults her, than she storms off - again and again. Making even a minor change near the outset of an argument could prevent this … [Read more...]

NOV 28, Sassy, Seductive and Single Social Mixer, Toronto

Sassy, seductive and single? Delightful and Divorced? Dating is a part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon … [Read more...]

Guys! Know When to Zip Your Lip!‏

"Does this dress make my butt look big?" Woah, Dude! Shut my mouth! Is this a trick question? How do you answer a question like that? You are about to enter a minefield. If you do answer, do so at your own risk. What if she actually has a big butt? Not a lot of wiggle room there. Women should know better than to ask the question that way (grow up and quit asking questions that require your man to lie). In a survey I read recently, women resoundingly responded that the perfect answer is "No, … [Read more...]

What is Verbal Abuse?, Angela Lambert

Abuse can affect the lives of people regardless of age, gender or social status. Although people most often associate abuse with physical violence, it can come in many different forms including verbal abuse. Because of the nature of verbal abuse, its damaging effects are often underestimated and misunderstood. This can be a problem for people who are the victims of it. In addition, it can make it difficult for people who suspect that a friend or loved one is being verbally abused. To help combat … [Read more...]

Do You and Your Partner Go to Bed at the Same Time?

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? The one thing distinguishing a good marriage is that couples go to sleep with each other and wake up with each other. When partners don't go to bed at the same time, they miss a critical time for connecting. This pattern is the equivalent of a huge lost opportunity for sustaining and nurturing your partnership. The bedroom should be used for sleeping, sexual intimacy, or even pillow … [Read more...]

Is This LOVE, 12 Ways to End Addictive Relationships

In his book, “How to Break Your Addiction to a Person,” Howard Halpern first explains what an addictive relationship is, then gives guidelines for recognizing if you’re involved in one. Then, he offers several techniques on how to end an unhealthy relationship (or an emotional affair). I’ve compiled and adapted all of his suggestions into the following dozen techniques, excerpting what I found to be the most important passages for each.   1. Keep a Relationship Log Keep track … [Read more...]

Reignite Your Interest in Making Love!, CelebrateLove.com

Reignite Your Interest in Making Love! (Not interested in enriching your sex life. DON’T READ THIS!) When was the last time you told your partner what you like when making love? A recent survey by condom-maker Durex revealed that while 84% percent of couples admit their sex life would improve if they told their partner what they really wanted in bed, 14 percent of women never talk about it. How sad. If you're like a lot of women, you've started to treat sex as though it's optional. … [Read more...]

‘Say Something ….’

As a relationship coach I often have clients who are having what most people consider the number one problem in relationships: Communication Issues. Or maybe I should say, poor communication skills. "Communication troubles can stem from childhood experiences, in which we may learn to “stuff” our feelings, blame others, blow-up in anger, “beat around the bush” instead of saying what we need, want, or feel, or otherwise experience--and imitate - counterproductive communication habits. Sometimes, … [Read more...]

Are You Guilty of “Inattention?”

Everyone is inattentive sometimes. However, for some people inattention becomes a serious condition that leads to significant problems in their relationships. Times of inattention are a part of life. Your spouse is an imperfect human being... just like you. I'm not talking about attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Nor am I talking about the following non-medical causes of inattention. Poor attention spans can be a result of: • Being tired • Sleep deprivation • Hunger • … [Read more...]

“How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways…,”

Elizabeth Barrett Browning's begins... How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. How long has it been since you wrote your sweetheart a beautiful sonnet or simply told her/him, "I love you." Marriage and relationship experts agree on the importance of communicating love to our partners often and in a variety of forms. We often forget to show the ones we love how important they are to us. Simply saying, "I love you," is one way, but there are many other ways. Be creative. Do it with … [Read more...]

CelebrateLove.com, You Don’t Get Happy By Accident!‏

Are you tired of waiting around for happiness to find you? ...and waiting and waiting and waiting. Happiness can't find you and you cannot find happiness. Happiness is not something to be found... it exists whenever you decide you want it to. Notice I said, "You decide!" Happiness is a conscious decision that pushes it to express itself. Your thoughts become words, words become acts, acts become habits, habits express your character and your character becomes your destiny. Imagine if … [Read more...]

Good Intentions Are Not Enough!‏ – Wayne Dyer

Isn't it interesting? We have good intentions, yet, somehow we often never seem to get around to doing everything we know must be done to stimulate healthy love relationships. "Green lights and straight ahead" sounds like a great idea, however, without declaring good intentions nothing ever changes... it may change but you have no power over it. There is great power with intention when coupled with an act that one consciously wills. Good intentions without affirmative action get you … [Read more...]

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