Here is Your Prescription…, Larry James

On the hit TV show, "Elementary," Sherlock, after lots of banter back and forth with his shrink, his psychiatrist abruptly said, "Hour's up!" and handed him a prescription. It read, "Make one new friend before next week." Friendship is a good thing, however, somehow we all forget how important it is. A friend is someone you know well and care about, who also knows and cares about you. We need more people like this in our lives. Great friendships improve all aspects of our lives. When you … [Read more...]

LOVE like an Albatross, Larry James

The word 'albatross' is sometimes used metaphorically to mean a psychological burden that feels like a curse. It is an allusion to Samuel Taylor Coleridge's poem, "The Rime of the Ancient Mariner" (1798). In the poem, an albatross starts to follow a ship - being followed by an albatross was generally considered an omen of good luck. However, the titular mariner shoots the albatross with a crossbow, which is regarded as an act that will curse the ship (which indeed suffers terrible … [Read more...]

Shadows of the Past, Larry James

Shadows of the past are our out-dated precepts and ideas that serve no one. They are our preconceived notions about how we think things should be, should turn out or how things are. They cast their dreary shadow between ourselves and all that is good. We must steadily move closer to the realization that our outer-circumstances are not something to be resolved but rather look upon them as inner-conditions to be acknowledged and understood. We can never see the fullness of the Light while … [Read more...]

The Best Gift for Your Holiday Honey

Are you wondering, what is the best gift for your honey this holiday season? Relationships and marriages become stressed around the holidays. Too much to do and not enough time. What tends to fall to the bottom of our lists is making time to connect with our partners. It doesn’t have to be this way. With just a little thoughtfulness, your relationship can flourish during the holidays. Several years ago Bob and I wrote about what we call “Holi-Dates.” Holi-Date – A short, sweet date with … [Read more...]

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button?‏, Larry James

Is it Time to Push the “Reset” Button? by Larry James If your relationship is not gaining ground... you could begin again (with the same partner)! Be warned: Once a choice is made to end the relationship no amount of coaching, no communication techniques will make the relationship work unless - you and your partner make the decision that you want to have a relationship with your partner and decide how you want to make it work. If you can make that decision then you have taken the first … [Read more...]

Guys! Know When to Zip Your Lip!‏

"Does this dress make my butt look big?" Woah, Dude! Shut my mouth! Is this a trick question? How do you answer a question like that? You are about to enter a minefield. If you do answer, do so at your own risk. What if she actually has a big butt? Not a lot of wiggle room there. Women should know better than to ask the question that way (grow up and quit asking questions that require your man to lie). In a survey I read recently, women resoundingly responded that the perfect answer is "No, … [Read more...]

Don’t Need More Information ~ Need More Romantic Action‏

Remember when you first got together. Go waaay back... back when you were both were not afraid to be romantic and show your feelings. Remember when? The longer we are together, it seems that we begin to suffer from paralysis by analysis. It’s a condition that holds many of us back. Way back. We wish it were like it used to be but we are afraid to take the first step to genuinely show our affection to our partner. We analyze the situation and become paralyzed or reluctant to make the first … [Read more...]

Why Do People Get Married?‏

Everyone knows that there are ups and downs to putting a ring on it! Yet, thousands of couples get married every year. Love seems to be the main reason. What's Love got to do with it? A lot. AND Love is never enough! Love usually tops the list with most people. Companionship is a close second. Marriage usually involves tradition, religion, family and/or culture. Signing papers conveys respectability. You don't need a marriage certificate or label to be happy. It's a public declaration of love … [Read more...]

BE YOU Bravely and celebrate ‘who’ you are!

Most people can spot a phony a mile away. I've been running into quite a few people lately who seem to be trying to be something or someone they are not. Every time we make small choices to fit in, we are burying a little part of ourselves down deep. Which got me thinking... When you learn to be yourself, you learn to trust yourself. You will begin to listen to the "voice" within. As you acknowledge this inner-connection, and begin to listen to it, your life will begin to be different in … [Read more...]

Separate Beds are Liberating, Larry James

Anymore, it is not unusual to find that many married couples often sleep in separate beds. The National Sleep Foundation reported in a 2005 survey that nearly one in four American couples sleep in separate bedrooms or beds. The reasons include snoring, disruptive sleep, temperature preferences, different sleep schedules or sleep habits. Snoring, farting, moaning and stealing the bedcovers can keep anyone up at night. You probably do it, too. I denied it for years because it didn't bother … [Read more...]

CelebrateLove ~ An Affirmation for Letting Go‏

I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer insist upon my choice. I am willing to trust. I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me! I let … [Read more...]

Rewind to the Good Times!‏, Larry James

Rewind to the Good Times! Happily ever after is complicated. Happy weddings are a dime a dozen, however, happy marriages are much more rare and therefore more precious than gold. It's important to think to the future, say, 50 years down the road and wonder if the person you have chosen - with things sagging and the wrinkles more predominant, etc., etc., - is this someone you will still be excited to be with and love? Or will you say to yourself, "What the hell was I thinking?" I … [Read more...]

A Red Rose Bud For Her Pillow…‏

A Red Rose Bud For Her Pillow… Some men just don't get it! They say they love their partner, but rarely surprise her with something romantic. Taking the time to stop by a card or flower shop to do more than tell her how much you care without words is a great idea. A flower is a beautiful way to convey unspoken meaning. Women love surprises. Especially the ones that show that you were thinking about her and that you had to go a little out of your way to make it happen. So... guys! … [Read more...]

Who Pushes YOUR Buttons?

Who Pushes YOUR Buttons? It does not matter who you are... eventually someone is going to push your buttons! Sometimes it's on purpose and at other times, they may have caught you in a place where it just hit you the wrong way. I used to lash out at people in my younger days. My mind would begin forming zingers to launch to get even. I soon realized that that didn't work and that I was the one who suffered. It took a lot of restraint and self-awareness to deal with button-pushing in a … [Read more...]

Do You and Your Partner Go to Bed at the Same Time?

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? The one thing distinguishing a good marriage is that couples go to sleep with each other and wake up with each other. When partners don't go to bed at the same time, they miss a critical time for connecting. This pattern is the equivalent of a huge lost opportunity for sustaining and nurturing your partnership. The bedroom should be used for sleeping, sexual intimacy, or even pillow … [Read more...]

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