How Transitioning From Friends To Lovers Will Affect You

It’s a story as old as time – a man and a woman become friends, they spend a lot of time together, and feelings start to develop… feelings that are much more than just friendly.

When that happens, you may get scared because you might think that your friendship is over.

However, you shouldn’t regret losing a friendship when that friendship could turn into true love. The best relationships start as friendships, and you won’t be losing a friend… you’ll have a lover who is also a friend to you, and when the person you love is both your lover and your friend, it means a lot.

The truth is, the longer we’ve known someone, the more attractive we find them, and that’s a scientifically proven fact which explains why friends become lovers.

Friends are the people you feel most comfortable with. Your friend is someone who knows you even better than your family, and it’s someone you laugh with and cry with.

The relationships that last are those that have the foundations of friendship. Companionship and compatibility are what the relationships that stand the test of time are all about.

Don’t be worried when you see that your friendship is turning into something more because you should be happy instead. This man already cares about you deeply, and now wants to show you exactly how much.

To know for sure that his feelings for you aren’t just friendly, just look for signs of jealousy. Mention dating other men to him, and see how he reacts.

There are other signs that could reveal his true feelings for you, but jealousy is the biggest one.

Do you like him more than a friend too? Then let him know, but not by making a confession. All you should do is start flirting a little at first and see how he reacts. If you sense that he feels the same way, you can then be more straightforward. Check if there are signs that your guy friend is falling for you before you do so, however, because maybe he’s been showing them for a while, but you just didn’t know what they were.

Whatever you do, the most important thing is not to keep your feelings inside, hoping that he’ll figure it out by himself. You don’t want to lose the chance for true love just because you’re too scared to admit how you feel.

I know that you’re afraid of losing your friend because I was too, but would you really rather lose your chance for true love? Losing what you have is worth it when it means you’ll have much more.

You could end up being happily married to the person who is your best friend in the whole world; that’s what happened to me.

Of course, I was also scared about letting him know how I felt, but do you know what I realized? Since he was my friend, he already cared about me and liked me.

I told him how I felt, and he was relieved because he had felt the same way for a while. However, that doesn’t always happen. Most of the time, it does, but there are times when a friend wants to stay just a friend.

Is finding out what the case is in your situation worth risking it? Absolutely!

Another thing that helped me realize that is the fact that a friend is someone who knows you really well. Therefore, if you have had feelings for him that are more than just friendly for a while now, he probably does have a clue about them.

You also know him very well, so you probably already have an idea about whether he reciprocates your feelings.

Unfortunately, you can never be sure, just like he can’t. The closest you can get to figuring it out is if you check for the signs that a guy likes you more than a friend.

However, even if you don’t see any, it doesn’t prove that he likes you only as a friend. Maybe he doesn’t like you as more than a friend, but only because he has never thought about you that way.

Once you let him know that you want to have a relationship, he’ll think about it, maybe for the first time. He could then realize that it’s what he wants too, he just hadn’t thought about it before.

My point is that if you want to be more than friends with this guy, you should definitely let him know about it. Don’t hold it in, because transitioning from friends to lovers could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Are there signs that you’re more than friends? Maybe you’re already acting like a couple.

Either way, go for it! It’s time you become a real couple, and don’t be scared, because you’ll stay friends as well.

Thanks to Sesma

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