For many couples who plan to get married, whether to pick the engagement ring together or not is a big question. Some guys like the idea of being able to surprise their partner with a stunning engagement ring, but spend their time worrying if they’re going to pull it off.
As couples become more and more equal today, there’s no need for either partner to be left in the dark when it comes to choosing an engagement ring – especially if they’re the one who’s going to be wearing it for the rest of their life.
But, if that’s not enough to convince you to choose an engagement ring together, we’ve got an extra fifteen reasons that just might.
Reason #1. You Can Save Money
Ok, that’s so unromantic. But, with the cost of a diamond engagement ring easily able to empty your savings account, having two pairs of eyes on the look-out for bargains is much better than one.
Plus, if you’re choosing it together, why not take it even further and split the cost, too? You could make it even fairer by opting for a matching halo engagement ring set, for example.
Reason #2. You Learn About Each Other
This reason is more like it. Choosing an engagement ring together only means one thing – you’ll be spending more time together browsing and discussing ideas. Choosing your engagement ring can be a lot like planning your wedding; there’s a lot of choices!
Plus, you’ll get to know more of each other’s likes and dislikes, which can only be a good thing, especially when it comes to finding the perfect Christmas gift in the future.
Reason #3. Reduce Stress
For many people, buying something as significant as an engagement ring can be seriously stressful. Not only do you need to know exactly the type of ring that your partner likes to wear, you must make sure that you get the size right, pick the right material, cut, color, and so forth.
So, why not just ask them and make it so much easier for yourself? When you pick an engagement ring together, there’s no need to worry about making a grave mistake by picking a ring that doesn’t fit, or even worse, one your partner can’t stand the style of.
The result: Less stress, and more happiness at what should be a very special time!
Reason #4. Compromise on a Big Decision
As a married couple, you’re going to have to compromise at times to make your marriage work. In the future, you may find yourselves in a situation where one of you wants the complete opposite from the other – whether this is about what to have for dinner or whether to move abroad.
Something just as simple as purchasing an engagement ring together can often require compromise; perhaps you’ll find that your partner has fallen in love with a ring that’s a little over budget, or maybe you both have differing tastes and need to compromise on an engagement ring set.
Reason #5. You Can Customize the Ring
Although you could get a customized ring without choosing it together, involving both of you in this decision ensures that it’s even more personal. Customizing a ring is a great way to express the unique relationship personal to the two of you, so what better way to decide than together?
If you don’t want to get rid of the surprise factor when you pop the question, a customized ring could be a perfect choice. Your partner will get to choose all the elements that she wants, whilst you put them together to get her dream engagement ring made.
Reason #6. No Risk of Disappointment
Most ladies are more than happy with any kind of ring if it’s presented to them by the man they love. But, when you’re picking an important piece of jewelry such as an engagement ring that your partner is going to wear for the rest of her life, it’s nice to know you’ve picked one she adores, and not just because it came from you.
No matter how well you know her, you’re always running the risk of making a mistake with your ring choice if you pick it out on your own!
Reason #7. You Can Still Have a Surprise Proposal
There are plenty of romantic proposal ideas that you could come up with that don’t involve gifting the ring straight away. Whether you propose with roses, chocolate, wine, or her favorite meal, you can still make a huge deal out of popping the question and then happily ride into the sunset to choose the perfect ring together.
Or, why not whisk your partner away on vacation to propose; they’ll be enjoying themselves so much that waiting to choose a ring together won’t matter.
Reason #8. You Might Have a Family Heirloom
Maybe your partner has a ring that was handed down to her from a much-loved relative that she’d like to wear as an engagement or wedding ring if you two got married. Or, perhaps you’d like her to accept a ring that’s been handed down your family generations to you.
If this is the case, then you may need to talk it through to make the right decision.
Reason #9. Surprises Aren’t Always Welcomed
Some people just really don’t like surprises – they need to be prepared for as much as they possibly can in life. If this sounds like the dictionary definition of your partner, then it’s probably not a good idea to impose an engagement ring on her that she hasn’t had a say in. If your partner isn’t into surprises, then opting to choose the ring together is probably the most romantic thing you could do.
Reason #10. You Can Be Flexible
Today, many couples know that they’re going to get married long before the question is asked. With many couples moving in together and even starting a family years before they decide it’s time to tie the knot a proposal of marriage might not be a surprise to your partner.
But, choosing a ring together allows for some flexibility, and you can still include the element of surprise. For example, you could ask your partner to pick out 4-5 rings that she’d love, and then leave it up to you to pick just one.
Reason #11. Discover Alternative Styles
Picking out an engagement ring together means that you can combine both your tastes and preferences, which often leads to you exploring more options on the engagement ring market.
Perhaps you’ll end up looking at hand-made rings, unconventional stones, or diamond alternatives to symbolize your engagement, and end up choosing a ring that you’d never have picked had one partner been left to choose it alone.
Reason #12. Strengthen Your Couple Bond
It’s as simple as that – the more time you spend together, the stronger your relationship will become. Window-shopping at the jewelers, trying on potential rings, and even looking for engagement ring bargains online can all be fun to do together with your partner.
Plus, if you’ve recently proposed (or said yes), then you’ll probably be excited to spend as much time as possible with your new spouse-to-be.
Reason #13. Make a Better Choice
Maybe you know nothing about jewelry, but your partner has quite the collection. In this case, they might be more qualified to pick out a good ring! For many guys, buying an engagement ring for their partner can be a huge minefield if they have never had to buy anything like this before.
If your partner knows her gemstones and what to look for in a nice piece of jewelry, she might be able to help you get better value for your money.
Reason #14. Get the Size Right
There’d be nothing worse than proposing to your significant other, only to find that the ring can barely be squeezed onto their finger, or worse – it’s at risk of being lost since it is too big and keeps falling off. Although rings can be easily resized, it’s extra hassle that you won’t need when you have a wedding to plan!
Choosing an engagement ring together means that your partner can try them on and get exact measurements, resulting in a perfect fit!
Reason #15. They Might Not Even Want One
Lastly, what if your partner doesn’t want an engagement ring? Wearing jewelry isn’t for everybody, or maybe your partner would prefer a more unconventional jewelry piece to symbolize your union. Engagement gifts such as a bracelet, necklace, or earrings might be a better choice.
Perhaps they’d prefer it if you spent the money on a luxury vacation together instead for your honeymoon. But, if you don’t make the decision together, you might not know this.
Your turn: would you prefer to choose your engagement ring together, or would you rather have the special man in your life present you with a wonderful surprise? Or, as a guy, would you prefer to involve your fiancée in the decision? We’d love to hear from you in the comments.
Thanks to Joao De Sousa
Fifteen Reasons to Pick Out an Engagement Ring Together
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