‘Immediate Gratification-modern way’, D. Neddermeyer Ph.D.


 “Rome was not built in a day.”

-John Clarke (1596-1658).   

 You have probably heard that statement many times.

Yet, in today’s fast-paced society we tend to demand instant gratification.

We want everything faster with more whistles and bells. How often have you heard yourself complain about your slow dial-up computer or you do not have time to wait for a regular meal to be cooked, thus, fast-food with drive-up window is a frequent meal provider.

We want everything now–new job, dream relationship, enlightenment, etc. However, we need to remember that there is divine timing involved. The hold up is you need to be ready. Ready! You might shriek, I am more than ready–I have done the affirmations, worked hard, I have done everything right. What more can I do?

Your desires are on their way, but you fail to receive them because you are resisting them. There are no problems, only resistance. When you find yourself in a place you do not wish to be, but desire a better place, what makes you think you have to stay where you are instead of moving on? You are resisting your desire to move on because of self limiting beliefs. You need to resist being where you are, but you do not have to resist the process.

Resistance only perpetuates if you struggle against it. If you meet resistance with more resistance, it will only grow stronger inside. Surrendering to the process is a way of embracing your resistance, allowing you to release attachment to it, and see the perfection in each moment. Whenever you have resistance about anything, let it go by accepting it and acting on it. What is–is. One way to release resistance is to physically move yourself to where you want to be, or you could change your mental actions to realize that things are going well.

There are no mistakes, everything you experience is the way it will be, until you move on. When you think there are mistakes; it is analogues to thinking the universe is defective. If that were the case, everything would fall apart because nothing could ever be sustained. The universe is arranging every intention and its manifestation to take place in the best possible way according to divine order and diving timing. Things are consistently in perfect flow for perfect enfoldment of their creation. All you need to do is to flow with the flow.

Therefore everything that takes place is really good and not evil. If you choose to see things as good, you are in harmony with the flow of the universe and you will see the truth of it manifested from moment to moment. If we choose to see things as bad, you resist the flow and create the experience of it being bad. The universe does not create mistakes, you do. All the mistakes you experience are when you resist the flow. The universe is creating through you and when you co-create with it, things are perfect.


Fear is resisting what is…..”

Love is accepting what is….. “


When you resist what is taking place, you are living in fear because you feel separated from the universe and that which you desire. When you accept what is taking place, you are living in love because you know that you are one with everything that the universe does and that includes your desires. You and your desires were created together by the universe to express and experience itself. You and your desires are the universe manifested into what you call life.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, “101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life.” Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s daily thoughts and feelings.



– Dr. Joyce Neddermeyer, Ph.d


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